lundi, décembre 22, 2003
omg.. i cant wait for next tues to come man.. LIGHT YEARS IS BACK!!!!! YAY!!! most of the actors and actresses are still the same.. KIM.. my fave... elle.. etc.. but issac is no longer acting in that show... i dunno why.. and there's 2 extra artistes who took part.. i dunno their real name.. but their reel name is avril and peter.. yupz.. cant wait to watch it manz...
Fantasy
when you open this book here, it is time to look at the role that fantasy is playing in your life. Fantasy is the creation of your imagination. Unlike reality, fantasy is free of restrictions and practicalities. Fantasy can be a wonderful thing, a way of focusing on a dream to help make it a reality, a way of having fun or escaping for a little while. But you are using fantasy in a negative way at the moment - as a way of avoiding full participation in the present and in the reality of your own life. Look at how you are doing this. Do you dream of the perfect partner without doing anything to find them? Do you put up with an unhappy relationship and fantasise about the neightbour or postman to get through each day? If so you are using fantasy as a way of avoiding the truth, the reality of your life. Now is the time to stop and live in the present. Concentrate on what is real and work on making it better.
Maybe right now you are making something out of nothing in the relationship arena. Stop reading so much into the little that is going on. Stop attributing unknown thoughts and intentions to the person that you are attracted to. If someone looks your way and smiles, that is all that they have done. They haven't communicated a deep desire to be with you. They haven't offered you hope for the future. They simply smiled. If someone doesn't phone you, arrange to be with you, make time to see you and make you a priority, then you are living in a fantasy if you believe that you are having a successful relationship with them. If someone sees you a few hours a week or once every few weeks, the dream of being together is based on hope and imagination, fantasy not reality. Now is the time to face this. Free yourself for someone available and deal with the fears that attract you to someone unavailable. Deal with the fear of real intimacy.
Maybe you opened the book here because your attraction to a movie star or other famous person is filling up your relationship space and blocking the potential for real love. Or, if you're doing while in a relationship, it's a way of distracting yourself and avoiding full intimacy with your partner. In either case it's time to stop fantasising and move closer to someone you can really be with. It's easy to be attracted to famous people or people that we do not know, as they can seem so ideal, but it isn't real. Strip away the glamour and you'll see that these are only ordinary people too. They get grumpy, ill, tired, they go to the bathroom. The fantasy is so perfect because it excludes all of this. It takes you away from the real life. But in doing so it robs you of the potential for a true, real and fulfilling relationship. Let go of the fantasy and face reality. Even if it hurts, it's worth it. You're worth someone and something real.
----- "Love Wisdom" by Carolyn Temsi & Caro Handley
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