dimanche, novembre 16, 2003
ok.. dunno what to write in here... mayb shld jus write what i think abt relationships ba..
hmm... to me in a relationship.. we need to compromise.. compromising to me aint a bad thing at all.. cos compromising is part of love... there isnt any couple who dun compromise... everyone comes from different background.. different walks of life.. to be together, both parties need to compromise and learn to live with each other etc.. to accept the person you are with.. u learn to live with her.. it's also compromising... like baking a cake.. u need sugar.. though sugar is only a small component... but it also plays a part.. imagine baking a cake without sugar.. it wont turn out nice... jus like love.. compromising is a small part of it.. but if both parties wont wanna compromise... the love they have for each other will turn sour.. compromising is essential in a relationship...
interests and stuff.. u can never find a couple who can have exactly the same interests... u imagine lah.. if u and ur partner have the same interests... and u guys will be doing the same thing again and again.. dun u think it's boring? if there's different interests... u can like do a diff thing.. try out new things in life.. and perhaps it can slowly become ur interests too.. trying out things which ur partner likes and is interested in is NOT compromising... it's merely a trying out... if u dun try.. you'll never know what will happen... if u dun try u'll never learn.. if u dun give anything a try.. u'll never know what u actually like... there's no harm giving it a try at all... but u'll regret if u dun give it a try.. interests doesn matter to a couple at all.. there can b a couple having totally different interests and yet can be happy together too.. every single couple have totally different interests... and have to compromise... even if u guys dun get to compromise during dating... u guys will SURE have to compromise after marriage... cos of different lifestyle... and have to live with each other and each other family... isnt it compromising still? so u cant actually escape from it.. if u think compromising is not a good thing... then think again... u cant escape from it after all.. unless u dun get married..
in this life... u have to give everything a try.. give everything a shot... if u keep thinking abt stuffs... u'll never get anything right... if u dun try u'll never know.. by thinking so much doesnt help... give urself a chance give others a chance.. if u think it's not going to work after trying... u can tell the opp party how u feel abt things.. if he/she feels the same way too.. then.. u guys go decide on what to do after that..
i mean in life.. we are given lots of CHANCES to do things... and it's ur CHOICE to decide whether to get hold of it or not.. a CHANCE lost... it'll never be back again.. and u might tend to regret later on in life.. but if u CHOOSE to try.. and things dun turn out the way u wanted.. then u wont regret.. cos u know u've at least made the CHOICE to try.. there's always no harm trying things in life... to meet each other is a CHANCE..
ok this is a mail i received from kaixin.. and wld like to share it with everyone...
Chance or Choice
When we meet the right person to love, when we're at the right place at the right time, that's
chance. When you meet someone you're attracted to, that's not a
choice. That's
chance. Being caught up in a moment (and there's a lot of couples who get together because of this) is not a
choice. That's also a
chance.
The difference is what happens afterwards. When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next level? That's when all sanity goes back, you sit down and contemplate whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or just a fling. If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that's not a
chance. That's
choice.
When you choose to be with a person, no matter what, that's
choice. Even if you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same, that's
choice. Infatuation, crushes, attraction comes to us by
chance. But true love that lasts is truly a
choice. A
choice that we make.
Regarding soul mates, there's a beautiful movie quote that I believe is so true about this:
Fate brings you together, but it's still up to you to make it happen. I do believe that soul mates do exist. That there is truly someone made for you. But it's still up to you to make the choice if you're going to do something about it or not. We may meet our soul mates by chance, but loving and staying with our soul mate is still a choice we have to make.
We came to the world not by finding someone perfect to love...BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly..
after reading all these... i supposed there's no harm trying everything.. give urself a chance.. give the person who like u a chance.. it's fairer for both.. by trying.. u'll know what u want even more.. it'll also give u a clearer view.. u'll never know what u wanna.. until u try..
by knowing each other is a fate and a chance... never miss it.. if u do.. it'll never be back again... give it a second thought.. never regret bcos of some things u never try...
ok i think i've been typing on my thoughts a lot... hope my frens will know what to do ok? smile ppl... some chances in life are not to be missed.. ok ciao..
shweet dreams;
12:15 PM
